Though the effects of alternative treatments are hard to prove empirically (through traditional research methodology), there is ample anecdotal evidence (i.e., everyday experience) that they work for a significant number of people.
“I am concerned that you may be experiencing pain, discomfort, confusion, loss, etc. If I have contributed to that emotional state, I take responsibility and will do what I can to return you to a more positive state.”
As the author of your own life, character development occurs as a process of reflection. If you are dis-satisfied with yourself, decide what you want and start writing your current chapter to accommodate that character.
Anger need not reflexively mobilize the body for survival as if in a default life-threatening situation; on reflection, it may simply remind you to assert a positive sense of self to ensure that basic needs are met.