Dear Dr. Kweethai...
I am a single father with three young daughters. It makes me nervous to think it is up to me, their father and a male, to have “the talk” with them.
Explaining the physical part of it may make you both squirm a bit. And a modern girl may claim to already know what she needs to know. But your daughters will appreciate the effort it takes if they know you have their best interests in mind. And since they usually do not know as much as they think they do, “the talk” is critical.
The thornier question is how to handle the question of abstinence. The typical approach is “Here’s how; now don’t do it!” An alternative is to remind your girls of the need to respect themselves. If you have raised them to be self-assured and confident in their own sense of self, there is little question they will make the right choice when faced with the challenges inherent in interpersonal relationships, including love and sex.